Parents are one of the key points of contact for their children when they have questions about media use. The challenge for parents is the constant need to maintain a balance between their role as protectors and their desire to help their children benefit from the diverse opportunities presented by digital media. The following wide-ranging information is designed to help parents support their children as they grow up alongside digital and mobile media, and to do so in a manner that is age-appropriate, service-specific and above all – just like each child – distinctive and individual. The FSM will be happy to assist with further information – please get in touch!
Internet guide for parents
It goes without saying that children grow up with media. They also gather their impressions of the media, above all, in the family, for example, in watching television together or observing their parents on the laptop, tablet-PC and so on. Children follow this behaviour with curiosity and frequently with the desire to make active use of media themselves. The Internet in particular opens many possibilities for them, e.g. through games sites, online offerings from TV stations or information portals for children. Online game offers can stimulate the child‘s fantasy and be a meaningful addition to children’s play, which is very important for their development. Besides the learning processes connected with play, this also involves pleasure, the spirit of discovery and entertainment.
The Internet has a great appeal for children on account of the variety of offerings. Above all, the combination of different kinds of media, for example the matching game combined with a lot of other information around the favourite TV series contributes to this appeal. But in spite of their fearless and interest-led approach, children are still not media and Internet professionals. They must learn to find their way in the diverse world of the media and to find the right offering for the right purpose, to reflect on their own behaviour as a user, to recognize underlying aspects of media-society and politics and also to make productive use of media for themselves. A not altogether simple task, which in addition is constantly changing its nature with rapidly developing media technologies. The general term ”media competence” summarizes this extensive catalogue of tasks.
You as parents can and should help and accompany your child in this learning process. The following tips may be of assistance:
- At the beginning always surf in the Internet together with your child.
- Make use of the sites recommended for children. These can quickly be found using search engines for children.
- Open a user account of their own for your child. In this way, special security settings – e.g. time restrictions – offered by your operating system can also be used.
- Set a children’s site or search engine for children as the starting page in the browser in your child’s user account.
- Make use of suitable parental control software, e.g. those approved by the KJM
- Agree clear rules for using the Internet with your child – in respect of both the period of use and the content to be used. Have regard in this to the development of your child. With increasing age, greater freedom in using the Internet and media use in general should also be agreed.
- With increasing age, the communication aspect will become ever more important. Allow your child to use only moderated chat lines, e.g. the service at www.kindersache.de of the German Children's Aid Society. There are also special e-mail providers for children.
- Always keep up-to-date yourself, to be a competent partner in conversation with your child.
- Talk with your child about their use of the Internet and how they have experienced what they have seen.
- Explain to your child that you do not wish to control or patronise them but to come to an agreement about their use of the Internet.
- Prepare your child for possible dangers in the Internet. In particular, disclosing personal information should be avoided. On this subject there are a number of sites from which your child can gain information in a playful manner.
- Report problematic content relevant to protection of minors to a hotline, e.g. www.internet-beschwerdestelle.de
- Put the computer in a place where you can see it – not in the child’s own room.
Not every child is the same – no more so than is every family. These tips can be understood only as starting points. You yourself know your child best and are able to estimate potential dangers, but also opportunities. For this reason, regular communication and reflection about your child’s use of the Internet is of special significance. In association with the technical possibilities of youth protection, you can, in this way, make use of the Internet productively and above all creatively.
Hate speech is usually understood as verbal attacks on persons or groups due to certain attributes such as skin color, origin, sex, sexuality or religion. In social media hate speech often appears in comments, posts, memes or videos. Learn more
Hate speech violates the integrity and dignity of individuals, defames them and ostracizes them from society. If misanthropic comments increasingly appear on the internet, hate messages can go viral and lead to a public spirit in which discrimination and violence against certain groups seem to be acceptable. Thus hate speech also becomes a breeding ground for real acts of violence. You can find more information on page 149 of "Bookmarks – A manual for combating hate speech online through human rights education".
The EU Framework Decision 2008/913/JHA demands from the member states to combat certain forms and expressions of racism and xenophobia by means of criminal law. Member States must ensure that hate speech against a group of persons or a member of such a group defined by reference to race, color, religion, descent or national or ethnic origin. The criminal codes of most Member States contain provisions that deal with hate speech falling under incitement to violence or hatred, but in detail they can differ in terminology. Learn more
Whether a symbol is illegal or not, highly depends on the country the content is related to. In Germany there are numerous prohibited Nazi-symbols like the swastika, but also the flag of the "Islamic State" as a symbol of an unconstitutional organization is not allowed to be distributed in public. In addition, ciphers and codes are used to cover up hate messages. Therefore a closer look at the content is recommended, even if the symbol or sign is not illegal in your country by itself. Some companies do not accept them if they are used to incite hate. Learn more
Content that violates legal provisions or the terms of service can be reported to the platform on which the content has been provided. You can find a list of collected information on how to report content on the different platforms here.
In addition, there are campaigns and hotlines that can provide help and take measures against illegal hate speech in their countries. For the success of a report it is always helpful to keep your report as exact as possible. It is best to name a specific content, or the URL to a particular video, comment, or user profile.
Administrators have tools that other users do not have. You can block or delete posts and users, you can use a netiquette to set rules for the discussion on your site and with campaigns you can encourage your users to stand up against hate speech. Most of the bigger platforms explain the special functions on their services and give tips for administrators.
On the internet there are many good examples of creative measures against racism, xenophobia and extremism. It is important not to let hate speech go unchallenged. Counter speech is a good measure to disprove racially motivated misinformation with arguments. For example you can use memes or create campaigns to cast a slur on hate speech. Such actions are important signs for democracy and show solidarity with the victims of hate speech. Learn more
fragFINN e. V. is a non-profit registered association engaged in building up and maintaining a whitelist of Internet services suitable for children and committed to positive youth media protection and raising children’s media skills. The aim is to strengthen the trust placed in the Internet as a medium by children, parents and teachers. The association is financed and supported by well-known companies and organisations in the telecommunications, Internet and media sector. fragFINN was initially set up by FSM at the end of 2007 as a part of “Ein Netz für Kinder” (A network for children), an initiative of the German Federal Government Commissioner for Culture and the Media and the German Federal Ministry for Family Affairs, Senior Citizens, Women and Youth. In November 2009 came the foundation of the association.
fragFINN provides a protected surfing space designed especially for children aged 6 to 12. Its child-friendly search engine will only find websites that are suitable for children, with content checked by media education specialists, and the search results prioritise children’s websites. fragFINN.de also includes an area designed for adults, where a variety of technical options for ensuring a safe surfing space are presented. Parents and teachers will find informative literature available for download, along with links to other sites providing advice on safely surfing the Internet.
The “klicksafe.de” project aims to function as a nationwide platform highlighting the opportunities and risks presented by the Internet – a national hub for a network of existing information offers and initiatives within Germany. Partners from the political, business, social and economic spheres work together within the “klicksafe.de” network. The project was commissioned by the European Union as part of its Safer Internet Programme, aimed at raising the level of Internet skills among EU citizens.